I tend to go at everything like a bull at a gate. I have to do it now, I have very little patience and can’t really wait for the reward. If I have a parcel through the door, I have to open it straight away, I struggle with learning golf because there is no discernible progress from one week to the next. I like to be successful now! How I ever managed to learn musical instruments or how to swim is quite beyond me!
The same is happening with my year to fixing myself. I want to do it all now. I want to take all the supplements change my diet habits and to make myself better now. Unfortunately, this will fly completely in the face of what I set out to do and to find out slowly what it is that might make me feel better.
I have reached the end of my second month. So far I have learned:
- Alcohol does make my hot flushes at night worse. It also gives me restless legs. Now, if it weren’t 10,000 degrees in the UK at the moment, I might not be suffering from this quite so much! I researched restless legs and the heat – the heat doesn’t make the restless legs worse – but more than likely does reduce the capacity to cope with them. Either way, this alone is enough to stop me having a tipple!
- I don’t drink enough caffeine as to make a difference. I probably have two or three cups of coffee a week and otherwise drink green tea and a wide selection of herbal teas.
- I love exercise and am grumpy on the days I don’t do it. In addition it does improve my chances of sleeping. I have managed to maintain my commitment to exercise and including walking have exercised a minimum of 5 days per week. My mileage for the year is currently 922 miles, so I’m hoping to achieve my target of 1000 miles during August. I’ve also really enjoying trying a range of different exercise classes at my gym.
- I haven’t given up anything that would cause me any inconvenience, nor have I tried introducing something that I might struggle to commit to on a daily basis – I’ve gone for the easy option!
- Gradually I am starting to change. When I go to the fridge to get a snack I am tending to reach for healthier options as I increasingly feel awful if I eat junk. I’ve also started to spurn cakes, as shop bought cakes just tend to be too big and too sickly. I’m not sure if this change is due to being more mindful in my choices, or because I am writing a daily food diary and so am more aware of how foods are making me feel, but generally I would say I am starting to make better food choices.
- Daily meditation does make a difference. I feel calmer and more in control of situations as they arise. I haven’t yet worked out how to manage the situations, but at least I am more aware of them as they happen!
I have done some research this month about being a lady of a certain age and the effects it can have on your body. I’ve also read about the different supplements you could introduce. However, I have decided that approach for the next few months is to tackle those things that I believe affect me the most. Exercise is a must, but besides that, the things that currently annoy me most are:
- Sleepless nights – bit chicken and egg, not sure which comes first, the hot flush or the sleepless night, but the combination of both with the added bonus of restless legs drives me to distraction
- Slugglish bowel habits – a bit too much information there!
- Brain fog – it’s like I’m in a permanent daze – a prime example is putting my mobile phone on to charge and then five minutes later searching high and low, even ringing my mobile from the landline because I can’t for the life of me think where I might have put it. If I’ve forgotten to take it off silent, the problem is compounded.
As a consequence, I have decided that I would like to tackle sleepless nights next – to my mind having a decent nights sleep will improve the brain fog situation, if nothing else. And so, I have researched what I need to do to improve my chances of getting a good nights sleep. I referred to a book ‘New Natural Alternatives to HRT’ by Marilyn Glenville who recommends:
- A good quality multivitamin for women of a certain age
- Magnesium supplement – I was given this many years ago by a nutritionist who tested my magnesium levels, so it didn’t surprise me in the least that this could be a contributory factor
- Valerian – to be taken alongside the magnesium one hour before bed time.
- A camomile based hot drink prior to bed.
- A hot bath with a lavender based bath oil – I might have mentioned that it’s currently 10,000 degrees in Bristol, so this isn’t currently an option!
- Placing an essential oil on your pillow! Lavender is a popular choice, but I do already have DoTerra Peace blend which was recommended to me by my kinesiologist.
This does also fly in the face of only trying one thing per month. If I do all of the above, how will I ever know which was the one that helped me sleep. I have to admit, I don’t really care! I am so desperate to have a good nights sleep that I’m quite willing to throw the kitchen sink at it and see where it takes me. By my thinking, if I sleep better I will be better able to cope with the brain fog, I might not even get it, and it is also a contributory factor to a healthy digestive system – so a winner all round! I also so keen to get in to a regular sleeping habit that I have reached the point where I am quite prepared to take the supplements on a regular basis, I am quite determined to see the month out and am quite positive about the results. I know there will be many doubters who think it’s all a load of nonsense, but at the end of the day, if I believe it will help me and I believe it will improve my life, then that’s all that matters. It would be interesting to learn other people’s hints and tips for achieving a good nights sleep.