Oh it’s back – well it never really went away – but my menopausal symptoms seem to be back with a bang. This time I am more determined to do something about it. If procrastination was a degree course I would have sailed through years ago. Sadly, it’s not – but what it has done has stopped me making any progress. Apparently, procrastination is, in fact, an emotion regulation problem. According to this article from the New York Times, procrastination has just as much to do with self-doubt as lazyitis!
I’ve read too many books on the subject of self help, by too many people and at the end of the day they all say the same thing – at some point in time you’ve got to get off your arse and help yourself. Like many lazy people, I like to hope that there is a magic wand, or a quick fix just around the corner that will instantly turn me into a svelte, toned, tanned goddess, but sadly not. I just have to get on with it.
I’ve carried out very extensive research on HRT (I asked my two mates at the pub) and have concluded it’s not for me. They had both tried, for very different, specific reasons and neither of them found it was right for them an in both cases it didn’t fix the thing they had most wanted it to. Both also said they had put on a lot of weight very quickly, which they have struggled to shift since stopping taking the tablets. I have experienced that myself, in 2005, when I was given some drugs to control bleeding. The bleeding was controlled, but I also put on 2 stone in weight in the space of a month – a good stone of that has never shifted and I am loathe to experience that again.
I did also go to the library and found a fascinating book, ‘Your menopause Bible‘ by Dr Robin N. Phillips – husband has been thrilled to learn some menopause facts he never felt he needed to know! One thing that I have learned is that HRT and Endometriosis don’t go well together. Although I have had a hysterectomy, any endometriosis deposits still wallowing around on my bowel or bladder will respond to the hormones in the HRT as they would have were they still inside the womb. Basically taking HRT risks firing up the Endometriosis again – and I really don’t want that to happen.
What I have found fascinating is the heap of symptoms that can be attributed to menopause. I knew all the obvious ones like hot flushes, sore boobs, weight gain, menopause brain – but have been quite shocked at others! Dry eyes, for example – what’s that about! It would appear that pretty much anything that goes wrong with a lady of a certain age can be attributed to menopause. I can only be thankful that post hysterectomy I don’t have to deal with some of the more painful physical symptoms alongside the emotional fiasco that I have become! Insomnia is still the worst – some days I do just feel like I’m wading through treacle!
So – I have thrown the kitchen sink at it! As a consequence I won’t really know what it is that has worked the best and why, but there we are. I have:
- Started taking Menopace night time multi-vitamins to help with sleep.
- Started using magnesium body lotion before bed every night – apparently magnesium aids good sleep and there is method in your granny’s madness in having epsom salts in your bath every day.
- Started using an essential oils mix of ylang ylang, clary sage and thyme in fractionated coconut oil which I massage into my stomach, thighs and ankles four times a day. I got this remedy from FemFusionFitness. Dr Bri is a qualified women’s health physiotherapist who is herself investigating a natural approach to menopause and has all sorts of nuggets of advice and information
- Diet – not as in diet to lose weight – but as in making choices to support my body and avoiding those foods that I know upset me. I find this really difficult as I don’t want to be that awkward person that everyone rolls their eyes at in a restaurant when they say ‘I can’t eat that’. As I said before – I’ve been waiting for a magic fix – it doesn’t exist, so I’ve just got to crack on! I have to say the big struggle for me is giving up my Soya lattes!
- Made up a Bach Flower remedy containing mimulus (for known fears), aspen (for unknown fears), walnut (for change) and hornbeam (for can’t be arsed).
- Set myself the target of walking 10,000 steps a day as a form of gentle exercise alongside yoga – I do generally enjoy exercise so this is giving me a focus and hopefully is something I can still manage in Bristol and Portugal.
- Entered the Midnight Walk for St Peter’s Hospice as a focus for my walking and to give me a commitment to keep to. I’ve entered with a friend – which always makes a difference for me and we’ve entered the 10mile version – so I need to be fit and able for it!
- Started taking Pukka clean Chlorella – not a clue what that does – but it’s high in vitamin B12 and D – which apparently is good for menopause!
So there we are – off on the menopause roller coaster – I’ll get back to you on how I’m progressing.